Age is No Barrier to Meeting a Partner for an Affair Online
In the past, when women, and occasionally men, reached a certain age, they were expected to make sex a thing of the past. Grandma and grandpa were expected to, respectively, bake cookies and whittle and not give a second though to hopping in the sack, particularly with someone who wasn’t their spouse. A one-night stand or a sex-only relationship was considered as likely as either one of them going down a mountain on a snowboard.
Grandma probably had it worst of all. While an older man could get away with a young something on the side (or in the case of Hugh Hefner, several young somethings), an older woman was expected to put her sexual needs and desires on retirement. Even though they were making great strides in other areas of society, older women were still expected to keep their sex within the confines of a traditional relationship.
But that, as they say, was then. Today, older women and men are extremely active in the online adult dating scene and while some segments of society may still frown upon them freely expressing their sexual vibrancy, others within the community welcome them with open arms, finding them to be as desirable as any other members of the adult online dating community.
According to a study in the New England Journal of Medicine, 73 percent of adults ages 57 to 64 say they are sexually active and 53 percent of adults 65 to 74 are still enjoying sex. In senior living communities in Florida, for example, a recent public relations campaign has been started to help seniors cut down on the number of cases of sexually transmitted diseases that have begun cropping up due to the active sex lives of the seniors. And while the STD situation may be dire, the fact that seniors are still extremely sexually active shows why they have become a big part of the adult online dating community.
While there are several dating sites for older individuals which are more traditional, with modest descriptions and an expressed desire for partners who enjoy “walks on the beach, horseback riding, cruises and quiet evenings at home”, older individuals who become members of discreet adult dating websites are definitely more explicit in their desires for the perfect partner, or partners.
Like others who join discreet adult dating websites, older individuals are explicit about what they are looking for and what they want. They’ve decided to cut through the pretense and the stereotypes of being an older individual and let their sexual desire come out. Because they’re in an atmosphere of like-minded adults who desire discreet (and sometimes not-so-discreet) adult affairs, they’re often not afraid to be as bold as they can. Older women, in particular, may find the atmosphere exhilarating due to the sheer number of men who express a desire to meet them for discreet sexual relationships.
Even more appealing to older individuals who decided to become members of adult dating websites is the number of invitations they will get for discreet affairs from potential partners who are younger than them. Where once older individuals were limited by society and perhaps their own sense of morality to date someone as old or older than they were, adult dating websites have shown them that they have an appeal that stretches beyond their age group. It’s not unusual for someone in their 60s to make a connection, both sexual and personal, with someone in their 40s or even 30s. Online adult dating makes it possible for older individuals to widen their pool of potential partners and find sexual partners of all ages anywhere in the nation – across the country or right in their own backyard.
Perhaps one of the biggest reasons why discreet online adult dating has become so popular with older individuals is the discrepancy in the sexual desires of spouses or partners. Studies have found that sexual desire (but not the ability to have and enjoy sex) begins to decline in men around the age of 30, while in women it seems to begin to increase around the same age. So in the past, women may have reluctantly tailored their sexual life to that of their husbands, which meant less and less sex even though they may have desires more and more. But along came discreet adult dating websites and with it a new avenue for older women to find the sexual relations they desire in an atmosphere that allowed them to continue their primary relationship. They can find a partner to help them do all of the things that they were told “good girls” don’t do without pressuring their husbands.
But this scenario may also come into play for men as well. The ones who retain their sexual desire may find their wives unwilling (or even physically unable) to do the things they have always desired in the bedroom. And again, rather than continue to try and pressure their wives into doing something they clearly do not want to do, or risk getting entangled in an affair with someone familiar or close to both of them that can quickly spiral out of control, they can opt to join a discreet adult dating website where they can meet someone who understands the need for discretion yet has similar sexual needs and desires.
Thanks to the atmosphere adult dating website, which is fairly open and accepting of almost any and all lifestyles and personalities, older adults often don’t feel the need to be less than forthcoming with their personal statistics or descriptions. Many are free to disclose their age range and preferences, knowing that among the millions of other members of the site, there are thousands who will find them attractive and desirable. In fact, many older adults find themselves weighting their options among several potential partners (and engaging in several discreet relationships).
If you’re an older adult who has been considering a discreet affair but have been unsure of whether there’s a place for you, consider becoming a member of an adult online dating website. Check out the website before you sign up and you’ll soon find out that there are members from all walks of life, including those a lot like you, who are using the site to enhance their lives and keep the romance going.