Biggest Mistakes People Make When Trying to Conduct an Affair with Someone They Met Online
If you’ve decided to explore the world of online adult dating sites but are afraid of being discovered, it pays to use caution. While establishing a presence on an adult dating website is as easy as making a few clicks on a mouse, the ramifications of entering it haphazardly can be devastating and long-term.
For many people, the itch to explore other relationship options and/or re-ignite their sexual lives is so strong that they jump onto the first adult dating site they come across and begin sending messages to almost everyone they view on the site. They incorrectly assume that by casting their net wide they’ll snag at least one person for a discreet sexual relationship.
But this might be the worst approach to participating in adult dating websites. The idea for most people who are in an existing relationship but want to explore the possibility of a different sexual relationship through adult dating websites is to remain discreet but send out word that they are interested in a relationship. So to remain discreet, yet still find the fun and flirtatiousness you desire on an adult dating website, there are several mistakes you should be aware of to avoid detection.
Here are some of the biggest mistakes people make when trying to conduct an online adult affair:
It might seem to be an oxymoron to suggest that those conducting an online affair refrain from being secretive, but it’s true. Suddenly moving your computer to another, less trafficked part of the house or attempting to quickly shut down the computer when someone approaches are two of the many signs that something secretive is going on and the computer is the key.
Be selective about when you access your computer and log on to the adult dating sites. If need be, refrain from using the computer at odd hours of the early morning or late in the evening. If you feel there is a possibility being discovered and that you might have to close your computer’s browser quickly, then perhaps it’s not the best time or location to access the adult dating sites.
Establish a new email address
Rather than using your common email address to send and receive information from an adult dating website, set up a separate email account just for that purpose. Use one of the web-based email sites such as Yahoo! or Google so that you can access the email from anywhere if you need to do so. A new email account that is known only by you (and the people you meet on the adult dating website) can eliminate the possibility of your messages falling into the wrong hands. You never know who in your home already knows your email password.
Clean your browser
Along with using your computer or laptop judiciously, you should be sure to maintain your browser as well. Whenever you surf the web on your computer, you leave bits of information on your browser that can be easily obtained with just a few clicks. Anyone with minimal knowledge of computers and the Internet can quickly find out the sites you visited, the emails you’ve sent and lots of other vital information.
Whenever you finish visiting an adult dating website, go to your browser’s “preferences” tab and find the setting for “history” and click this button. This will clear the list of sites you have most recently visited, including any adult dating websites. Next, find the tab labeled “cookies” and clear this as well. Cookies contain information about the sites you’ve visited as well, which can provide someone with information that you probably don’t want them to have.
Since many of the phones in use today have the capability to send and receive email, texts, photos, etc., it may be tempting to use your regular phone to send and receive messages from people you’ve met on an adult dating website. But if this is a phone that is jointly owned and paid for by you and your spouse, the chance of your activity being detected is greater than if you were to purchase a second phone with a completely different number. Rather than have strange phone numbers or heavy data usage show up on your bill, purchase a second phone for communicating with people on your adult dating site. A pay-as-you go phone is probably the best choice for this, since these phone rarely, if ever, result in phone bills being sent to your home address.
Get a new credit card, post office box
If you become a regular member of an adult dating website, you’re probably going to have to pay a membership fee. These fees are usually automatically withdrawn from your bank account and will most likely show up on your monthly bank statement. To avoid this from occurring and resulting in discovery of your action, consider signing up for a new credit card to pay for the adult dating service fee. To further reduce the likelihood of the bill with the unusual charge appearing in your mailbox, obtain a post office box and use that as the mailing address for the credit card bills. The post office box can also be used to send and receive correspondence from partners you may meet on the adult dating site.
Read the adult dating sites privacy FAQ
A discreet adult affair can be a fun and emotionally thrilling encounter, but there are risks involved. If you’re committed to having a discreet affair, take precautions and make sure your trail of information is carefully managed and equally as discreet.