Using The Web to Find Partners For Sex Only
You’ve no doubt seen the commercials all over the television. Various websites that promise that they’ll help you meet your perfect “match”. They feature glowing couples holding hands and smiling, describing how they met online, dated and, sometimes, ended up marrying.
Dating websites are common across the web and have millions of users who are seeking their “life partner” or “soulmate” and are willing to sift through thousands of potential suitors to find the right one.
But there’s another type of “dating” website that is equally as popular but seldom, if ever, gets the type of publicity that the dating websites receive. These sites also boast millions of users who are seeking a partner but not necessarily for a long-term commitment. And for most, if not all of the, this is perfectly fine.
They go by many names but most people know them as “adult” dating websites, locations on the web where consenting adults can meet and possibly hook up with others for the sole intention of having a sexual relationship. Whether it’s for an ongoing period of time or a one-night stand, these websites serve as the conduit for adults who are not interested in finding a soulmate or life partner but someone with whom they can have a discreet (or not-so-discreet) sexual connection only.
While some segments of society may look down on these sites and the people who use them, the sheer numbers show that there is a need and a desire on the part of many people to cut through the “red tape” and the pretense and engage in a relationship that is based on sexual preference only. Millions of people have joined these websites and even paid a membership fee to become part of this new online community that is changing the way people meet and relate.
The users of these adult dating websites come from all walks of life. Straight, gay, single, married, individuals and couples all uses these dating sites to discreetly or openly meet with like-minded individuals for sexual relations only. Though people who use these sites often do intentionally or unintentionally get involved in more traditional relationships with others they meet on these sites, all enter into the community knowing the intentions of the majority of the users.
The sites operate in much the same manner as the more conservative dating websites: users create a profile listing their basic information and perhaps a screen name, they can include a photo (sexy photos tend to be the most popular) and they can chat and send messages to other users. Many sites offer the chance to send a “flirt” or “wink” to show one user that another is interested in them. The recipient can then respond with an email or message. They can communicate and discuss their interests (sexual or otherwise) and, if they hit it off, they can arrange a meeting.
For most of the users, the adult dating websites offer the chance to eliminate the pretense of dating and courting and place the emphasis on the part of the relationship the users are most interested in: sex. Because all of the users of the site are there for the same reason, it saves time and effort and eliminates the need to pretend or lie about your intentions and what you are seeking in a relationship.
Despite the obvious intent of the adult dating websites, there is still a need to display some civility. Informal surveys have shown that far more men use these websites than women, and that many times the women complain that the men come on a bit too strong. While all may be there for sex, the women say they still would prefer if the men were polite and courteous in their approach. And even if the communication does not result in a sexual relationship, it pays to remain courteous and respectful.
If a sexual relationship does occur, be clear with your intentions. It may be tempting to tell a potential partner what they want to hear to “seal the deal” (“Yes, I’m looking for a long-term relationship as well…”), but it might be better to resist that urge. And while you don’t have to disclose your current relationship status, consider that being married might be important to a potential sexual partner. Despite the explicit nature of adult dating websites, there are still users for whom being married is a deal breaker and morally wrong. If the occasion arises, explain your situation and let them decide for themselves if they wish to proceed.
In addition to pay-to-use websites there are sites that offer free “adult encounters” communications between adults who are seeking sex only. These sites include local free weekly publications and national websites. While these sites and the communication between adults who use them are free, they often require the users to be a good deal more cautious when using them. Many of the listings turn out to merely be fronts for prostitution. Other listings have been known to be placed by dangerous individuals who are not forthcoming about their true intentions.
The fee-based adult dating websites offer different features and many times different levels of membership. Depending on your level of membership, you can have access to different features that might include the ability to live chat, send unlimited emails and view and post videos. Also, the various adult dating websites may have different methods of billing, including automatic billing. If you are concerned about how the payment for the adult website will appear on your bill, check out the details before you sign up.
Examine each of the adult dating websites carefully and learn about the various features before signing up. If your desire is to cut through the dating and courting ritual and focus on sex only, online adult dating websites can help you save time and effort. With millions of users on these sites, you pool of potential sexual partners is stretches literally around the world.