The Advantages of Having an Affair with Someone You Met Online
For those seeking to add a little spark to their life, the creation of discreet adult dating websites has opened up a whole new world of opportunities and possibilities. With just a few simple clicks of a mouse, both men and women can find willing partners for discreet affairs.
The impact and appeal of online adult dating sites is obvious when one considers the sheer number of people who have become members of adult dating website and are actively participating in having affairs with other likeminded adults. According to the latest statistics, approximately XX million individuals are members of adult dating websites and are involved, on one level or another, in an online affair.
On the adult dating websites you come in direct contact with people like you who have decided to use technology to enhance their lives and add a new dimension to their sexual needs and desires. The reasons they arrive at the website may be different – some are looking to fill a need that isn’t being met by their current spouse or partner, others may be there to engage in no-strings attached sexual relationships – but the fact that they are there means they’ve decided to take an active role in bring new sexual pleasure and relationships to their lives.
The sites are a far cry from the “old days” of having a “discreet” affair, which sometimes required you to be a mind reader and risk immediate exposure if you make the wrong decisions. It involved actively seeking a potential partner, gauging whether or not that partner was open to the idea of a no-strings-attached or extramarital relationship, deciding whether or not to disclose your current relationship status and sometimes engaging the assistance of others to conduct the affair, further opening yourself up to possible exposure.
In short, you had to be something of an undercover spy to find, arrange and conduct an affair in the days before the Internet.
But that was then. Today, many of those roadblocks have been removed not only by the east of logging on to an adult dating website, but a new sensibility among many married or involved people that an affair can not only enhance their own sexual lives but remove pressure from their spouses or partners to comply with their sexual needs with they themselves aren’t interested. Indeed, many (but not all) spouses or partners either encourage or turn a blind (but knowing) eye to their mate’s decision to have an affair, somewhat relieved that they’re free to pursue their own lifestyle.
So what are some of the advantaged of having an affair with someone you’ve met online? Below are a few of the reasons that many people have begun exploring this option.
A common bond
While meeting someone online still requires you to display some discretion and civility, logging on to an adult dating website means that you’ve entered a community where you can be sure that everyone is there for pretty much the same reason. There may be subtle and not-so-subtle differences – some on the site may seek a one-night-stand while other may want a long-term but still no-strings-attached relationship, while still others are looking for a serious relationship that includes the sex they may be lacking in their lives. But users of adult dating websites that place an emphasis on bring sexual partners together know what they are involved with and go into the experience with an open mind. You may not find a “sure thing” there, but you odds of finding a person who has the same goal and sexual interests as you are greatly increased.
Meeting someone of the opposite sex or same sex for a no-strings-attached relationship may not be easy for someone who has a withdrawn personality. Out in the bar scene or workplace, their shyness may prevent them from being as bold as they want to be with their sexual needs or desires. They may fear face-to-face rejection and may not have the nerve to even approach a potential partner in the first place. But on an adult dating website, they can control what the world sees of them, which gives them a new level of control and man reduce their anxiety. They can create a new personal, choose a sexy new screen name to reflect who they are inside. They can “flirt” with someone who they might otherwise be afraid to speak to in “real life”. And they can sometimes see that “flirt” get returned with a “wink”, building their confidence for the next time. By seeking an affair online, withdrawn individuals can learn to build the confidence they need to fulfill their sexual needs and desires.
Trying to conduct and arrange an affair in “real life” involves a great deal of risk. The pool of potential sexual partners is usually limited to people you come in contact with on a daily basis – the person at work, the sexy barrista at the coffeeshop down the street, that one hottie you ran into at the bar around the corner from your home. While this might not be a problem if you’re single, a person who is married or in a serious relationship might be discovered because, chances are, someone else they know also frequents those same places, whether it’s a friend you now have to trust won’t disclose your secret or you partner themselves. The fewer people who know about your affair, the better. Which is why discreet adult dating websites offer the best possible venue for conducting an affair. As long as you keep your Internet trail clear and remain discreet, the only people that will know of your affair will be you and the person you connect with online. And because online dating allows you to meet people from virtually around the world, you can wide the pool of potential partners greatly.
Save your marriage?
While it definitely isn’t true in all instances, some relationships are salvaged when one of the partners has a fulfilling (but discreet) affair. More than one member of an adult dating website has reported that they joined because their current spouse or partner had lost interest in sex but they themselves had not. Rather than continue to pressure them for sex or simply suffer in silence until the only answer is ending an otherwise fulfilling relationship, one of the spouses decides to conduct a discreet online affair. Sometimes the partner knows and in agreeable to the situation, other times the partner knows of the affair but chooses not to discuss it. Or the partner may not know of the affair at all. But regardless of the level of knowledge, having an affair that fulfils one partner can often benefit them both.
If you’re trying to decide on whether or not to have a discreet online affair, as opposed to an affair cultivated completely off-line, consider the advantages of joining an adult dating website and how the format can help you better fulfill your sexual needs and desires by putting you directly in touch with people who want what you want.